The Secret to Attracting Women: Reading and Other Surprising Hobbies
If you're a young man looking for love, there's an unexpected key to unlocking the heart of the woman you admire. According to recent research, the most attractive hobby a man can have is reading—far more than boozing, gaming, or even smoking cigars. It’s not just about flipping through pages; it’s about showing that you’re thoughtful, curious, and genuinely interested in the world around you.
This revelation comes from a survey conducted by an organization called Date Psychology. While the term “survey” should always raise a red flag, the results are worth considering. The study found that women are more impressed by men who read than those who engage in other common pastimes. So if you want to make a good impression, maybe it’s time to swap your phone for a book.
But what kind of books? It turns out that comic books might not cut it. Women prefer men who read literature, philosophy, or even self-help books. Other hobbies that caught their attention include playing an instrument, cooking, learning foreign languages, and woodworking. If you’re looking to impress, consider picking up a guitar, taking a language class, or trying your hand at crafting.
A Journey Through Time and Books
Back in my college days, I used to carry a book everywhere I went. Whether I was walking across campus, riding the subway, or hiding out in the library, a book was always in my hands. I remember lugging around Jean-Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness, which was so thick I had to switch to Martin Heidegger’s Being and Time. Did I actually read them? Let’s just say I had my reasons.
Today, I’d probably be carrying something like The Power of Being a Woman or The Power of Being Alone for Men: Harnessing the Peaceful Superpower of Solitude and Embracing Loneliness for Personal Growth. There’s something about the word “being” that seems to resonate with people. To be or not to be—that’s the question, right?
Back then, there were no dating apps. I was winging it, which meant spending hours staring across crowded rooms, sweating, and wondering whether to approach a girl and ask, “How are you? Who are you? Can I take you on a date?” It was nerve-wracking, to say the least.
After 45 minutes of mental anguish and a few drinks, I finally worked up the courage to make my move. The answer was usually “no”—not even a polite “no thank you.” I was too busy being mesmerized by the wild girls who didn’t appreciate a guy who read Plato.
The Art of Being Sensitive (And Not Too Much)
I tried a different approach when girls started saying they wanted a “sensitive guy.” So I became sensitive. Unfortunately, I became too sensitive. I learned that “namby-pamby” guys aren’t exactly a hit either. As Brooklyn Dodgers manager Leo Durocher once said, “Nice guys finish last.”
If I had known about the hobbies that impress women, dating would have been much easier. Imagine trying to charm someone with lines like:
“I’ll pick you up for our date.”
“What are we doing?”
“Whittling. I have an extra knife and some pieces of scrap wood. You look like the kind of girl who loves arts and crafts.”
Then the response would be: “I just remembered I have a previous engagement with my dentist for root canal work. Gotta go. Arrivederci!”
Or, “Hey, I love foreign languages too! #*@$%O! (Italian swear word).”
It turns out that working with wood and learning languages isn’t as effective as one might hope.
Hobbies That Win Over Older Women
I don’t know if Date Psychology did a study on what impresses older women, but based on my many years of experience, I have a few theories. I’ve spent time with the opposite sex, including one wife, four daughters, one granddaughter, and one dog. From this, I’ve developed a few observations.
For older women, treats aren’t just about snacks. They want a guy who can do yard work, change a flat tire, and keep their car clean. They also appreciate a man who doesn’t spend all night watching TV, drinking Miller Lite, and pretending he can cook or do laundry. Most importantly, they want someone who listens more than he talks.
In fact, I’m so good at listening that sometimes I fall asleep while doing it. I’ve even developed the ability to listen while I’m asleep. And you can too. I’ll explain how in a future column.
Final Thoughts
So, whether you’re looking to impress a younger woman or an older one, there’s one thing that remains constant: the power of reading. It shows depth, curiosity, and a willingness to explore the world beyond the surface.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go to the supermarket, the car wash, and/or the dump. (You know, this Heidegger guy is really hard to understand.)
FYI: "Caveat lector" is Latin for "Don't believe a single word you read."
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